Hi there, friend!

Our New Yorker of the Week is Jeff. He’s 34, lives in Brooklyn, and is looking for friendship and love. Reach out to [email protected] if you’re interested in connecting!

Ready to make some new friends and/or go on some cute dates yourself? Fill out the application here, you fabulous fall leaf!

Now, onto the fun stuff:

How would someone who loves you describe you?

A friend recently told me that my foremost romantic asset is that I'm well-balanced: I live an active lifestyle, and try to put myself out there, whether that's joining writing groups, organizing camping trips, participating in a pickleball league, performing at quirky DIY comedy shows, and generally trying to build relationships with people from different walks of life.

On the other hand, I err on the more sensitive side, so I'm just as inclined to spend the afternoon comforting a friend-in-need. I try to strike a balance between an inner urge to keep challenging myself, and an occasionally-opposing urge to find a sense of meaning and purpose rooted in helping others. I like dumb physical humor. I like high brow critique. You get the point. Lastly, for those who care, I'm 6'1''. Can send photo ID with proof.

What sorts of things do you want to do with your friends?

Cherished friendship activities include but are not limited to: armchair philosophizing and/or psychologizing, getting competitive over low-stakes games, be it board games or pickleball (admittedly, pickleball is higher stakes, but I'll keep it chill), karaoke, dancing (to pop, and not at crowded clubs at 4 am), going to and discussing artsy movies, co-working on personal writing projects, sharing and constructively critiquing aforementioned personal writing projects, biking around the city, checking out random cultural events. Going out to eat is nice too, but I generally prefer active fun over passive pleasure, but active fun can just mean going for a cheeky jaunt around the park. Same with travel: it has its place, but I'm more interested in pursuing an enriching lifestyle and fostering a strong local community at home, than living through wanderlust.

What's something that people might not guess about you?

I've had to deal with a lot of chronic pain and bodily instability issues throughout the years, so I know way more about anatomy and niche exercise modalities than I should. Same goes for somatic therapy techniques: I had a tough year or two. So, despite my otherwise skeptical/sarcastic demeanor, I'm pretty well-versed in all that spiritual healing jazz. Oh, and despite my previous quip about travel and wanderlust, I've done stints in a considerably wide-ranging set of places around the world.

Are you looking for love? Tell me about the type of person you're looking for!

Yes, looking for love! He/Him, interested in women. A healthy mix of sincerity and levity, as well as a tolerance for the frequency with which I have to pee, is all I ask for! Erring on the more independent side helps too.

Anything else that the Joy List community can help you with?

Just a glimmer of hope that we can find true love in this loveless dystopia we find ourselves in!! For anyone reading this, don't give up hope!!

A space to meet intentional, exceptional singles. Bring a friend you think is great but don't want to date!

We all have friends we think are sensational, but we don’t always want to kiss them ;) Vouched + Vetted is a Single's Social club where every single person shows up "Vouched + Vetted": Tickets are sold in M+F pairs, which means every person comes with a friend who thinks they’re awesome. Join Allie Leilani, Matchmaker at We Clicked Matchmaking & Zara Isobel, Somatic Coach for Vouched + Vetted's pilot Single's Event!

Gatherings

Double check details before you go, and contact the organizers with questions! The Joy List does not run these events.

Tuesday, October 15: Collage Party: Paint a Pumpkin Edition

It's spooky season so let's decorate pumpkins in some creative ways. We'll provide paint, glue, collage tools and all kinds of crafting ideas to make truly unique pumpkin creations. Come hang out, meet some neighbors, and get crafty.

$10-$20. 7 to 10 PM. 552 Grandview Ave. Info here.

Wednesday, October 16: 30s Speed-Friending at Pig Beach

Do you wish you could have more of the kinds of conversations you have late at night where for some reason, you feel safe talking about the things you actually care about?

Bring your friends (or come by yourself) and spend your Wednesday night at an event where you know everyone else is there for the same reason.

$22.93. 7 to 9 PM. Pig Beach BBQ, Queens. Info here.

Friday, October 18: OpenLev: A Day of Soulful Co-Working

OpenLev is a space for bringing work and life back together. We believe that work and a search for deeper meaning can, and do, go together. And if we surround both pursuits with self-aware wisdom and rituals, then maybe we can support our personal and communal development while also getting stuff done. What to expect: focused work time, interlaced with intention setting, kabbalah meditation, breathwork, and a community lunch... come join us and reclaim your workday.

$36. 9am-5pm. Sound Mind Center - 202b Plymouth St., Brooklyn. Info here.

Friday, October 18: Acid Eastern

After a dance floor self-initiation, visit the Bone Oracle. Allow the bones to speak and the blood to flow as you receive clarity on your path. The oracle awaits to guide you forward into the Blood Lounge. In this intimate space, you’ll undergo a ritual of restraint, binding yourself to your highest qualities. The scarlet threads of Red Shibari are woven with intention, an offering to tether your soul to its deepest strengths. The more bound you are, the freer you become. Next, purify yourself through an ancient ritual. Surrender to the power of St. Andrew’s Cross, where your negativity will be beaten out of you, leaving behind only the purest form of who you are meant to be. Finally, the Demon Poodle Hounds of Hell will be summoned to alleviate the suffering of this realm by extracting the darkness from a chosen host body, leaving behind a vessel of pure light. Their primal energy is not to be taken lightly.

We live at the end; we die at the beginning. With Sissies of Mercy, Latex Girl, and Acid Eastern (live). Experience our six-hour live ritual club working, mind-bending live electronics, and surreal interactive ceremony.

$25. 10 PM to 4 AM. House of Yes, 2 Wyckoff Ave. Info here.

Saturday, October 19: Harmony & Healing Fest

Join us for the Harmony & Healing Festival at Sound Mind Center where creativity and community converge. Conscious dance party with Awarehouse, live performances from Pinc Louds and Ainae, an open mic, yoga. songwriting, food & drinks, and more. With sound healing lounges, community storytelling, and plenty of activities, this low-cost event offers connection, inspiration, and a full day of fun!

$5. 9:30 AM. Sound Mind Center, 202b Plymouth St. Info here.

Saturday, October 19: NYC Non-alc Bar Hop & Tour

Check out 3 non-alcoholic bars in NYC, meet other like-minded people, and visit some cool local businesses!

$50. 4:30 to 8 PM. Kosmic Community Anti Bar & Coffee Shop, 115 Loisaida Ave. Info here.

Sunday, October 20: Introduction to Rage Club: Women of Earth

Rage Club is a space for people to consciously connect with their anger. We start from the premise that all feelings are not good or bad, but neutral sources of energy and information that can be used to gain clarity and take action. In Rage Club, you will begin to change your relationship to anger so you can use it consciously, without being possessed or overwhelmed by it.

$50-70 sliding scale. 3-5 pm. The Knife Factory, 347 Maujer St. Info here.

Are you a millennial woman seeking community? Join an online support circle!

The online group is for female identifying adults seeking support around loneliness, relationships, burnout or overwhelm. You'll build authentic community & deepen connection to yourself. Amanda Sacks (LCSW & Yoga Teacher) leads the ongoing group on Mondays from 7pm-8:20pm EST. Group includes sharing, writing, breathwork & somatic tools. Group isn't therapy & is open to women across the US. Email [email protected] to ask questions and book a call to join us.

That's it for this edition. Try something new this week, friends! 

Jillian

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