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The Joy List: October 6
Hi there, my splendiferous readers!
Today’s New Yorker of the Week is Anthony. He’s 36, lives in midtown, and is interested in friendship and love. Email him at [email protected].
If you’re interested in being featured, submit yourself here. Bonus points for sharing the link with any awesome singles you know!
At least 3 relationships have started from these, as well as many friendships. (If you’re in that category, let me know. I’m trying to keep a running count!)
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How would someone who loves you describe you?
I think someone who loves me would probably say I’m really dependable. I show up when it matters and they can count on me. They’d say I’m driven and always chasing something bigger, but I still make time for the people I care about. They’d probably describe me as a mix of serious and goofy. I know when to focus, but I also know how to make them laugh. Most of all, I think they’d say I genuinely care, and I go out of my way to make the people close to me feel safe and appreciated.
What sorts of things do you want to do with your friends?
With my friends, I just like doing things that bring us closer, whether that’s staying up late having real, deep talks, going out and trying something new, or just laughing over a game night. I’m into being active too, like running or exploring new places together. Honestly, it doesn’t have to be fancy; if we’re connecting, joking around, or making good memories, that’s what I enjoy most.
What's something that people might not guess about you?
Something people don’t usually guess about me is that I’ve got a pretty reflective side. I come off as outgoing and always on the move, but I actually spend a lot of time just thinking things through, writing stuff down, and looking at the bigger picture. It catches people off guard because they expect me to always be “on,” but I’ve got that quieter, thoughtful side too.
Are you looking for love?
Yeah, I am. I’m looking for someone who feels like both comfort and excitement; someone kind, genuine, and curious about life. I love when a person has their own passions and can share them with me, but also doesn’t take things too seriously and can laugh about the little stuff. Being able to have fun together, try new things, and also sit down for real, honest conversations is really important to me. At the end of the day, I’m just looking for a good heart, a sense of humor, and someone I can build something meaningful with. I go by he/him, and I’m straight.
Anything else The Joy List community can help you with?
Honestly, the biggest thing right now is connecting with like-minded, community-oriented people. I’m building out some projects and would love to meet collaborators, mentors, or just folks who enjoy sharing ideas. I’m also always down to hear about cool local events, volunteer opportunities, or spaces where people are trying to do something positive.
Gatherings
Double check details before you go, and contact the organizers with questions! The Joy List does not run these events.
Monday, October 6: Moxy Williamsburg Backgammon Night
Join Us for Backgammon at Moxy Williamsburg. Let’s roll the dice and have a great time! See you there!
$10. 6:30 to 10 PM. Moxy Williamsburg. Info here.
Tuesday, October 7: Reading Rhythms Reading Party with Fantasy Author J.D. Netto
Calling all fantasy readers, this one's for you! Join J.D. Netto for a stellar reading party while celebrating the impact and voices of both Hispanic and Latine authors during Hispanic Heritage Month.
Reading Rhythms is a series of welcoming reading parties designed to make it easy for people to gather and read socially. We invite you to bring any book you want to our silent reading periods, as well as 1-on-1 breakouts, and group discussions to pull on the threads of the books that everyone is engaging with.
$15. 7 to 9 PM. Hotel Alameda. Info here.
Wednesday, October 8: Gaia Open Mic
This open mic is a unique opportunity to play with an audience, not just for them. Come experience the joys of getting the audience singing your original music, creating a collaborative soundscape for your poem, or inviting them to drum along to your story!
We'll start by making a little music together - singing some pretty chords around together, some fun call and response, that sort of thing - and then kick off our night of sharing. In this opening ceremony, we'll share some fun tricks for getting the audience participating in your art, and we encourage you to try them out!
Donation-based. 6:30 to 9:30 PM. Arts On Site St Marks. Info here.
Thursday, October 9: Somartica
What happens when adults remember their most embodied, creative selves? Somartica (Somatics + Art) invites you to find out. Through meditation, intuitive movement, and playful art making, you'll drop perfectionism and let your inner child run free. No experience necessary! Just curiosity and an open heart.
$30 Suggested. 7-8:30 PM. 147 Metropolitan Ave. Info here.
Friday, October 10: Go Fish, Girl!
Meet your new bestie! Go Fish, Girl! is a social mixer with a fun twist-- play games in a low-stakes, high-fun speed dating format! Unlike your typical speed dating event, this event is for making new friends and getting to know your community. It is open to all genders and ages, anyone looking to make new friends.
$20, 7pm-10pm, 10 Cooper St BK 11207. Info here
Friday, October 10: Othership Williamsburg Social x Rhone
For World Mental Health Day, Othership is partnering with clothing brand, Rhone, for all their sauna sessions. I’ve been told there will be some surprises!
The 9 PM social is a great way to meet new people in an unstructured way. If you want more guidance, the structured classes are also a great option!
9 PM. Use JILLIANRICHARDSON for a discount or this link for 11% off a first-timers one-week pass. Williamsburg. Info here.
Saturday, October 11: On The Spiritual Spectrum, A Salon: Healing With Play
On The Spiritual Spectrum is a salon to discuss the sacred and meaning in community. People of any belief or no belief are welcome.Our guest speaker is Ben Freeman, the Program Director at Lab/Shul an experimental synagogue in NYC, he is also a musician, and loves running task parties. Ben will share how playful imagination can connect us to our deepest selves.Saturday, 10/11. Doors 6:30, Start 7.
$30 6:30-9pm 4119 30th Avenue Apt #3F, Astoria, NY 11103. Info here.
Saturday, October 11: Mystical Sukkot Havdalah Ceremony
Join us for a mystical ceremony of chant, ritual, and dance in the Sukkah, connecting to the ancestors, and calling in the energies of connection, abundance, and joy. This gathering will be facilitated by R' Jericho Vincent with Sacred Musician Carla Friend, Rabbi Arielle Krule, and DJ Julia Edelman, and will take place in an art installation Sukkah. This evening will begin with the ritual of Havdalah and then move into a chant practice using both our words and our bodies. Eventually, our dance chant will morph into an Ecstatic Dance-style DJ set, opening up the Sukkah for collective movement.
$18 + 7-9 PM + 664 Bergen St, Brooklyn, NY 11238, USA. Info here.
Sunday, October 12: Together Against Loneliness
Come to Belong: Mental Health & Wellness in the Age of Loneliness! In honor of World Mental Health Day, join us for a full-day community gathering dedicated to building lasting connections and supporting mental wellness.
What to expect: Inspiring talks and performances by guest speakers and mental health & wellness leaders, Community-building workshops and activities, Music, storytelling, and shared reflection on finding the place we belong, A variety of educational mental health resources, and connections to local organizations, clubs, and ongoing events & support
$5, 11-5 pm, 45 Howard St. New York. Info here.
Sunday, October 12: Nature Discovery and Mindfulness in Prospect Park
Join us for an immersive nature awareness experience in Prospect Park on October 12th. Whether you’re craving the creative stimulation that nature provides, or stressed out and looking for a healing activity, or you’re looking to learn new approaches to mindfulness in our city parks, or you just love nature, this event has something for everyone. We will slow down, explore, and deepen our connection to nature. Together, we’ll observe and speculate about plant species, animal behaviors, bird calls, and tap into mindful awareness.
$15. 10 AM to 12 PM. Prospect Park. Info here.
Sunday, October 12: Walking Talking Men
Walking Talking Men is a national movement for men to create real, lasting, local friendships in our own neighborhoods, one walk at a time. We started out in December 2024 as a group of men in NYC, getting together each week in Central Park to walk and share what’s going on for us. Now, men across the country are gathering together for conversations and community in pursuit of developing real, lasting, local friendships in their own backyard.
Our walks give men a non-judgmental space to talk about our lives. Our purpose is to normalize every man having a community of local friendships in a society that often makes that difficult to find/maintain.
Email [email protected] to join the Upper West Side Walk!
Free. Website here to learn more and see other cities.
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